Suzanne Ragan Lentz

luminary for emergence

Safe to be Seen

I am safe. I am safe to be seen.

These are the phrases that I am repeating in my head as I write today.

For the past eight days, I have been butting up against “It is not safe to be seen” this little thing that I learned from being the target of jokes in elementary school because I was different and then reinforced by my family in the guise of meaning well.

Lots of us have been here. It could have been our weight (in my case), color of our hair, awkwardness, sexual orientation, really, anything that made us other.

This being such a deep-seated feeling, this not being safe, it isn’t surprising that it has been a recurring theme in my life. This last time really felt as though it came out of left field (though as I typed that… don’t the triggers always feel like that; always coming when you least expect them?). And it focused on how I am writing about certain topics here not the writing itself. The writing criticism actually happened a year ago which basically put a kibosh on my blog for the rest of the year and the newsletter I send to clients.

At the time, I blamed not having time between my full-time job, seeing clients, mentoring, and online classes. Now, however, I realize that I stopped writing because I didn’t want to be seen because when I am seen I am not safe.

Last week brought me face to face with little elementary school Suzanne and I got to hug her and tell her it was going to be okay. That she was safe. That it was safe to be seen. And, in so doing, a self-induced soul retrieval occurred in which a crystal container opened the length of my major chakras with my 3rd chakra, that place of personal power, feeling open for the first time in my adult life.

It was in the face of this perceived criticism and truly wanting to shrink away that I instead wrote a blog post about folks speaking their personal truth and being fully seen that got more traction than anything I have written thus far, created and mailed an exclusive gift for the Be Your Own Guru program full of magic, and launched the beta session of the Luminosity Mentoring Program.

And guess what? I am safe to be seen.

Where in your life do you not feel safe to be seen? What have you been putting off doing?

I had put off writing for a year when the thing I deeply crave is connection and engagement. My life feels much more whole when I am writing. Magical.

Until next week…

xoxo, s


  1. Love this article and love what you have created for Be Your Guru.
    Big hugs and love SEEING YOU here.

  2. This is so beautiful and something I truly needed to read today. I’ve had a very similar experience in being afraid to be seen and as a result, I’ve become nearly invisible. I’m working on feeling safe too.

    • Maribeth, thanks so much for your comment. I am honored that it touched you. Re-wiring the neurons in the brain through writing down things for which I am grateful for and reciting affirmations over and over again have been really helpful for me in feeling safe. Really just re-programming those seemingly normal human thoughts that were not serving me. It can take time but is surprisingly powerful. Sending you love + light for your journey… xo, s

  3. Thank you, so perfect. I’ve realized upon reading this that for me its not safe for my joy to be seen. My dad always seemed to get mad and yell at my sister and I when we were playing and having fun and so I learned that that’s not ok. I’ve been working to unlock my joy and allow myself to feel that and express it over the past several months. It is safe to be me and to be seen. And I will keep telling myself that until I really feel it!

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